During a conversation, I have a hard time judging when a person is serious. When a person says that I’m beautiful, are they serious? or joking? When a person says that I am slow, are they serious? or joking? Admittedly, these conversations take place inside my head, but similar transactions have occurred of late. And, they have my head spinning.
Maybe it’s my Aspie brain, but I question whether a person is joking even when a statement is followed by “haha I was only joking”. My thoughts are always, “you just criticized me, and you say you’re ‘only joking’?!” It makes me wonder whether people say they are joking so as to cover the sting of the truth. You know, so people can say what they want and get away with it.
So, how can I tell? How do I know when a person is really joking and when they are really serious? If a person is, in fact, really joking, how do I remove the sting their words leave behind? My overly thinky brain thinks and thinks and thinks, and at the end of the day, the person’s words are twisted and gnarled. Words that started as a light-hearted joke, now becomes a much darker, more sinister version.
If only people said what they really meant and meant what they said. If only people realized just how powerful their words were. If only people picked their words as carefully as they picked their produce. Words can either hurt or heal … “just joking” never negates what was spoken. Never.